Have you ever sat down to evaluate yourself and realized that you actually are a nagging wife? I was sitting down a while back and I sure did realize I was one of those constantly complaining wives. See, every time I saw something I did not like from my husband I would nag him about it. I was thinking that if I nagged he would change; not realizing that in the future this could have damaged our relationship. When we got married I wasn’t going to church but I knew that somewhere in the bible it said “wives submit to your husband” and there is another part that said something about “being better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman”.
It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.
Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
Now you believe me? Well continuing… I would continuously nag to my husband “you’re not doing this, you’re not doing that, why are you this way, you need to change and so on”. I wanted him to grow (NO, actually I wanted him to be how I imagined marriage to be).
Did I change? Yes!!! Was it hard? Extremely hard!!!
I have to thank God every day because my husband ignored my nagging. I know he would get upset his face would say it all but he never once argued with me. And I’m thankful for that, he had patience with me. How did I change? I began to have a personal relationship with God. I wanted to grow deeper and walk with Christ; I wanted God to be the center of my marriage. I began to communicate instead of nagging. I saw better results when I spoke in a smooth way rather than in an arguing way.
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”
Once I began to talk to my husband with gentleness, I stopped nagging and belittling him, once I started to pray for me to change I needed that change, I SAW HIM CHANGE. He started doing things on his own; I didn’t need to ask for help. To me it was a miracle.
Ladies… if you constantly nag, belittle and embarrass/humiliate your husband, he will never change but the situation will get worst. Now if let him know how thankful you are that he’s in your life, that he’s a hard worker, how happy you are because he fixed something or just happy because he’s home with you BELIEVE me he will change on its own.
Remember it takes two to make a marriage work and you have your flaws too. Nobody is perfect therefore you are not perfect. Don’t expect a perfect man. Your husband (at least I know mine does) has to deal with the world and other people nagging on him all day, the last thing he wants is to open the door of your home and hear you nagging at him too.
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord