Hello! I'm Melina you can call me Mel. My husband is stationed at Ft. Bragg in North Carolina. Some people call us Army Wife; a “tag” that I personally don’t like to be called it's a part of who I am.. For starters I’m married to a soldier I am not a soldier. He belongs to the United States Army. I belong to my family (my husband). But I sure am proud to be his wife. This is his second duty station and I’ve been accompanying him in this journey for almost 2 ½ years.
I was introduced to my husband when he was deployed by a friend we have in common. We were cyber friends for some time until I decided not to talk to him anymore because our conversations were getting too good to be true and I was not up for another disappointment. When he got back from deployment he made a trip to Puerto Rico and once he arrived he contacted me and there it was LOVE AT FIRST SITE. So yes, I do believe in love at first site. We dated for 8 months and decided to get married in September 2012. I moved to Ft. Bragg, NC on December 2012.
I have to admit that I 'm not too fond with this lifestyle. I don’t like the fact that I can’t see my family everyday (yes I’m a family person). And it has been very difficult for me to make friends. The majority of the girls I've met are way younger, so therefore we have totally different personalities. I believe that I have made a good bond with one of the girls which in fact is the one motivating me at this moment with exercise and health issues.
And I have two other girls that I keep in touch at least by text. But there are times when the hub’s has to go to the field for a week and I have no one to at least go out to a restaurant with. Work wise I am truly blessed by the fact that I have found a job in
what I do (Administrative Assistant).
If I could tell people one thing about being a military spouse or the lifestyle, I would say it’s not the greatest yet it’s not the worst either. I have to thank Tricare because thanks to our health insurance (Tricare) I have one of the best doctors treating us for our infertility issues. Throughout these 2 ½ years I can say that it has been a good experience. It’s not something I would recommend to every woman because not every woman can handle the whole package (I thought I wasn't going to be able too, thank God for patience, love and tolerance). At this moment we don’t have kids but I've seen so many girls with kids and having their husbands deployed. I have to give it to them because it is not easy.
Think about those soldiers that can’t see their newborn because their wives gave birth during deployment.
And then the pros of this lifestyle are getting to know different cultures,
different states, and just traveling.
I've seen some shows where they put the military wives as dependent, cheaters or full of drama. Well not all are like that. There are some of us that are independent, hard workers, intelligent, humble human beings that simply love our spouses.